definition of friendship

i've learned that your true friends come out in crisis. one of my roommates went out on a limb for me when i was stressed out over something i had to do. well, it's not like she risked her life for me or anything but the fact that she put things aside so she could be there for me. i was really grateful to her for that. just knowing that she could be there.

on the other hand, my other roommate is willing to destroy basically her three only friendships in college all because she decided to use my other roommate as a scapegoat for her bad grades. i don't know how she came to the conclusion that it's my roommate's fault she got bad grades because in my book, you have only yourself to blame for your own personal failures (unless under extenuating circumstances... which she was not.)

i just feel very disappointed in her. it just makes me afraid of her. she went on to discuss to me the importance of grades... and to me grades are only important because the university and our judgemental society puts so much emphasis on it. grades mean nothing. and she basically said that her grades come before her friends. and something that means nothing comes before her friends. she is willing to forsake her only friendships, blame her, move out in the belief that it will make her grades better. (oh did i forget to mention that she recently got a boyfriend?)

of course you can't blame the two-faced perfect little angel boyfriend she has. god forbid. no. let's blame those who have stuck by her, those who have tried to protect her and support her.

my roommate still wants to clear her name and resolve this issue but i don't easily trust and i can be unforgiving on certain things. i guess this is just one of those things. it was interesting because before she told me all this, she was asking if i consider her boyfriend one of my friends. i bluntly told her that 'friend' is a heavy term i don't just throw around at people and that basically i disliked her boyfriend so no, he is not my friend. then she tells me. it's not her fault or even her boyfriend's fault she has bad grades. it's her friend's. what bullshit is that?